The exasperated parent at the end of their rope. “I never take time for myself, it feels so selfish…but I’m just so tired.”
The frustrated executive facing another meeting, who spends his alone time hiding in his office. “It’s the only quiet time I get. I’m not really working, I just can’t handle more of other’s problems.”
The lonely stay at home parent who feels like life and career choices are passing them by. “Sometimes, when the kids are asleep or at school, all I want to do is cry. I can’t though, because there are dirty dishes in the sink and clothes that need to be folded. I just want a day where I’m not buried behind the things I should be doing.”
Do any of these sound familiar?
We all get there at one point, that moment where we aren’t sure we can put one foot in front of the other. Where all we want to do is hide in a hole and not come out. The breaking point.
Call it what you want, you know what I’m talking about.
We reach this point, often, because we misunderstand one key aspect of our humanity.
There is a big difference between being selfish and practicing self-care.
Selfish – Concern for yourself, at the exclusion of others interests resulting in the detriment of close personal relationships.
Self-care – Showing high regard for your personal health, resulting in healthy personal relationships, the benefit of others, and holistic leadership development.
Being selfish means you care only about yourself. You are willing to trample others to get what you want. You don’t care who you hurt. It is defined by looking out for number one.
But self-care is entirely different. Good self-care is not about taking care of ourselves by hurting others, it is honoring our need and desire to rest, rejuvenate, and recharge. Self-care means we take care of ourselves so that we are better able to take care of others.
Our ability to give and serve an full capacity is only possible when we practice good self-care. Your ability to stay healthy is directly proportional to your desire to recharge. My leadership capacity is tied intimately to my ability to find time away, to reflect, to challenge myself, and to grow in the weak areas of life.
Determine today to break the limiting mindset that says otherwise. You don’t have to be at the end of your rope, you don’t have to live out of desperation, you don’t need to reach the breaking point. You can experience a life full of vitality and purpose.
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