With the New Year less than a week away, many of us are starting to create our lists for our resolutions. More than half of us will make them, and those that do will most likely break them by February 1.
Underneath all of it is the promise “Create a New You in the New Year.”
But that promise is a myth.
It’s a lie designed to thin your wallet as much as, or more than, your waistline. A marketing gimmick for them to take your money and leave you with frustration.
A “New You” is designed to communicate that something about this you is wrong. The premise is that your current method or mindset is broken and needs to be fixed.
The truth is that the dissonance in our lives is rarely because we something about us is wrong or broken, and instead it is about the need to honor values.
Your desire to lose weight is not because being overweight makes you disgusting or unlovable. It’s because you value health, time with family, and playing with your children.
See the difference?
In the first option, the belief that you need to change is based on you being flawed. In the second, it’s on giving yourself something you really desire (more time with family, memories with children, etc…)
In Values based coaching, and the challenge I give those I work with, is to provide clarity not just for the goals, but for the reasons behind the goals.
In the New Year, you don’t have to create a New You. All you have to do is discover who you really are at your core and begin the pursuit of honoring those values.
Here are four quick tips to help you get started:
1.) Set goals to be specific and timely. They need to be clearly defined. Saying, “I will lose ten pounds by March 1st” is more clearly actionable than, “I want to lose weight.”
2.) Create an accountability system. Tell someone your goal. As a coach, I come alongside individuals that are making changes and I help hold them accountable. Whether they want to parent better, lose weight, get out of debt, or develop their leadership skills, the people that I work with experience regular breakthroughs and goal benchmarks, precisely because they know that I will ask them about it. They have my full support and encouragement. Find someone that will hold you accountable to your goal.
3.) Be clear on why you are setting your goals. What is it you really want? How will attaining it help you be the person you want to be? How will it help you serve and lead better, experience more joy, or have a more satisfying life? Those positive direction based goals work better and last longer than negative or reactionary goals. If you want to lose ten pounds to try to get someone to like you more, chances are, it isn’t going to work. But if you lose that weight so you can have a better quality of life, enjoy your children more, or have more energy for your hobbies, you can create a goal that will stick.
4.) Make it fun. You’re more likely to stick to your goals if you can find a way to make it enjoyable.
Want more help? Email me below and I’ll be in touch about a free thirty-minute value discover session I’m currently offering. The promotional ends January 10, and special incentives apply for those who sign up for coaching after the consultation. Act now and reach your desires in 2016. I’ll help you do it the right way, and experience the lasting change you long for.